CapacityConvos

She Turned Down Chemo And Chose Herself

RaQuel Hopkins Episode 2

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A powerful conversation with Kelly about capacity, agency, and choosing life in the face of uncertainty. She shares her rare ampullary cancer diagnosis, how she self advocated across hospitals, and why she declined chemo to pursue a clinical trial. We dive into self trust during a major career transition to a federal executive role, finding the right support system at work and at home, and redefining relationships and priorities. Kelly reflects on preparing for death while fully choosing to live through travel, joy, and perspective, anchored by the mantra : you cannot wait until life is not hard before you choose to be happy.

What we cover :
How to listen to your intuition when the stakes are high
Navigating medical decisions with clarity ownership and self trust
Balancing ambition health and identity during major life shifts
Letting go of roles relationships and expectations that no longer fit
Choosing presence joy and meaning without waiting for life to get easier

Why you’ll love Kelly:
She embodies self-trust under pressure
She models what it means to build capacity in real life, not theory
She reminds us you don’t wait for life to get easier before you choose to be happy


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